Stephen Fry on Homophobia

"Most homophobia has absolutely nothing to do with sex. Buggery is far less Prevalent in the gay world than people suppose. Anal Sex is probably not much more common in homosexual encounters than it is in heterosexual. Buggery is not at the end of the yellow brick road somewhere over the homosexual rainbow. 'Tis not the prise, the purpose, the goal or the fulfilment of homosexual encounters. Buggery is not the achievement which sees homosexuality moving from becoming into being. Buggery is not homosexuality's realisation or destiny. Buggery is as much a necessary condition of homosexuality as the ownership of a Volvo estate car is a necessary condition of middle class family life linked irretrievable only in the minds of the witless and the cheap. The performance of buggery is no more inevitable a part of homosexuality than an orange syllabub is an inevitable part of a dinner. Some may clamour for it and instantly demand a second helping. Some are not interested. Some will decide that they will try it once and then instantly vomit. There are plenty of other things to be got up to inside the homosexual world outside the orbit of the anal ring. But the concept that really gets the goat of the gay hater, the idea that really spins their melon and sickens their stomach is that most terrible and terrifying of all human notions: LOVE. That one can love another of the same gender. That is what the homophobe really cannot stand.”